Attachment Styles

People have been talking about love languages for years, but a lesser known topic that is equally important is attachment styles. 

There are four main attachment styles: 1) Secure 2) Anxious 3) Avoidant 4) Disorganized (anxious-avoidant). Click on the picture below for a summary of each attachment style.

I hadn't heard of attachment styles until after my now ex-husband and I split up after 15 years and I entered the dating world for the first time. It was a real eye-opener. Since being single, I have read the book Attached three times. It's a great book and it has really helped me identify where I am and where I want to be in relation to my attachment style. I've learned to identify and avoid those with avoidant attachment particularly disorganized (anxious-avoidant). It's also helped me to be open about healthy boundaries and expectations of potential partners. 

I also found this graphic that helps to explain the four attachment styles relative to avoidance and anxiety. 

Know that wherever you are on this matrix, isn't where you have to stay. By paying attention to patterns, reflecting on your triggers, and setting healthy boundaries, you can learn to be a more secure you.

Be authentic in your journey.